The Twins

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The Twins

First rule of relationships: Never go to bed angry.

never go to bed angry.
if you've been fighting, the rule applies even if you live apart. this isn't just for women, either, guys. you have to play nice before bed. let's face it, make-up sex is good, but a lasting relationship is better. work it out, even if you both end up drawing blood. [just kidding.]

strong silent type's are a no-no
long after clint eastwood has gone into his little silent womb of noncommunicative pouting, a girl can finally see that the strong silent type isn't all it's cracked up to be. men who communicate their fears, ambitions and emotions are FAR better lovers in the end. same goes for females. if you can't tell him what you like, don't like and want- fuggetaboutit. it's not about being demanding, it's about knowing that your opinions and emotions are valid, so validate away! it's like that billy joel song: TELL HER ABOUT IT.

gift-giving and small words mean the world
on a shitty day, everthing seems bleak. you hate your body. you're PMSing to the Nth degree. your mother is sick. your family is falling apart. your dog shit on the rug again. there is no milk and traffic is horrible. so coming home to a hand-written note or a sweet text sent in the middle of rush hour can be awesome! it really does mean the world to someone wh is having a bad day, or even a good day. little notes, small tokens of appreciation and confirmation of love can be the sweet icing on any relationship's cupcake. and it doesn't have to cost a thing, but don't go cheap all the time. flowers and new underwear are a sure bet for sex, guys.

nagging is really ugly
nobody likes to be nagged. when you find yourself brow-beating and emasculating your boyfriend, make sure you check yo' self bitches. nagging is one thing [in my opinion] - a projection of your own insecurities. if you find yourself nagging a lot, maybe you are unhappy with what's in the mirror. keep yourself in check fist, then nag him later. granted, if his shoes are so smelly thy havt to remain in the hallway, a little nag might be the jump start he needs to take better care of himself. and about that smoking habit: the truth is, nobody ever quit because someone nagged them. keep positive and wait out any potential issues with your man [or lady] and things usually iron themselves out. can't HELP but nag because he's just so, GRRR? find a new boyfriend, dood.

remember your first date and often
looking back may be a sort of counterproductive thing in life, but in relationships it can really make a huge difference in a stale rut that many find themselves in. go for the gusto! eat at a park. take him out for cheeseburgers even though it's not on either of you diets. go to a cheesy movie or call out for pizza and play a game of checkers. whatever you did that first week [and don't we all remember? i know i do...] just get going in the backward direction. you started to love this person for some reason, right? why not remind yourself.

houston show

Paper Ballet

turning into my parents...

when my back is sore, i am my mother.
when my mouth is violent, i am my father.
saying how it is your fault, i am my mom.
when i work and hate being bothered, i am my dad.
my trivial love of flowers and butterflies, i am my mother.
the unspoken things, the silent emotions, i am my father.
when i have to scream, i am my mother.
when i have to scream *at someone* i am my father.
my undying addiction to reading and words, i am mom.
with my constant counting and compulsions, i am my dad.
when i hate myself i am my mother.
when i hate everyone else, i am my father.
being a child, i am my mother.
being a baby, i am my father.
when i want everything for everyone else, i am my mother.
when i want everything for myself, i am my father.
in these moments of self-pity, i am my mom.
in the moments of self-glorification, hello dad.

i am a product of two circles, joined, overlapping.
a ring of fire and a lake of ice.

Don't say 'otherworldly' around me

otherworldly
because of the people who use it. rather the *type* of 20-something internet shithead girl who uses it in reference to art, writing or photos. give me a fucking break.

schmaltzy
again, i actually don't mind the word, i just dislike it when someone uses it incorrectly. here is the definition:

schmaltz | sh mälts; sh môlts| (also schmalz)
noun informal
excessive sentimentality, esp. in music or movies.

so shut up already.

schlock
this word defined should be changed to 'Yiddish for American public school system' but it is also applied to 'journalism' and i agree.

cumbersome
because of that song from the 1990s that i will never EVER be able to use this word without actually singing that song... and hating every moment of it. and do not front, you know that song will get stuck in your head if you use the word "cumbersome" as well.

faggot
actually, one of my favorite words. [and frequently used in reference to anything from a queer boy's outfit or gelled hair, to the way my mouse sticks without allowing me to scroll.]

**but i really dislike the word because when i called a boy a 'faggot' in the fourth grade, my teacher forced me to write "i will not call thorn a faggit" and when i corrected her spelling, she made me write it one hundred more times.

**(see schlock AKA public school system)

My bucket list starts with: take my daughter to the Grand Canyon

before i die? how about before i turn 40?

take my daughter to the Grand Canyon
because in terms of God, i have never seen anything close to it. but the Grand Canyon is just awe-inspiring. one of the things that renews my faith.

meet philip roth
he's probably the closest thing ever to my perfect imagined man... he's the holder of my sweet innocent childish "daddy" fetishes and the intellectual woman's diseased infatuation. professorial and dirty; i think meeting him would change my life. will it happen? eh, who knows. probably not. he's reclusive and i'm a world away. but if ever- yes. i'd jizz in my pants.

have a diamond wedding ring
i have never owned a diamond ring that was bought especially for me. it may sound shallow, but it's a princess thing. i think all little girls want to be a secret princess and all women secretly want a big diamond from their husband.

have sex with a woman
i have had sex with girls, but not women. and i think now that i am older it would be very different and i'd like to find out if it's as awesome in real life as it is in my head. haha. plus i doubt my boyfriend would mind very much.

meet crystal acebal
she's this, you know, this member of the internet literati. i love her words and i love her mind. i have such deep feelings for this person i have never even spoken to on the phone. we've been internet friends for, well, going on 10 years now. it's AMAZING. to love and respect someone so much after that long. i just imagine hugging her to be the most warm and haling thing i'll ever do. no pressure! but that's it. meeting her would totally change me. i know this.

'Rattlesnakes' will help you through a break-up

the three best break-up songs for me. there are so many more, it seems like my life is based on heartache and breaking up with really good guys. i *think* i am settled down now, but who knows? ...breaking up is almost natural to me at this point. :)

Rattlesnakes by Tori Amos

the lines "she's oblivious despite herself" make this an awesome break-up song. and the line "it's so hard to love when love was your great disappointment." LOVE this song, and Tori's version is my favorite.

Original of the Species (killahurtz Casa De Angeles Mix) by U2

This was actually sent to me by an ex-boyfriend, which is cool because i kind of got his point of view on the break-up mess. we followed one another around online even after the break-up, for over six years. sometimes i drag out this song to have a pity party... and the killahurtz mix is really awesome.

The Moment I Said It by Imogen Heap

this song will make anyone think and rethink a souring relationship. you know when things just start to smell rancid and you both know it's ending soon- but who goes first? GAH. i love imogen so much. she owns me and my post-break-up heart.